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Originally Posted by SallyBrown
Could you tell your T, "There's something I need to talk about, but I can't get the words out. Can you just talk me through until I get to it?" Kind of like 20 questions?
I've also e-mailed my T saying, "There is something I have been putting off saying because it feels too hard, but by telling you I'm going to say it I'm trying to commit myself to it." That way he reminds me the next time that I said I would talk about it. Sometimes you need to take baby steps... start by talking about talking about it.
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I've done this too, and my therapist and I have talked a lot about why it's difficult to bring a particular topic up before we even get to discussing the topic.
It hasn't always made it easier to actually say the words when the time comes, but the "warm up" period is helpful in getting me used to the idea of talking about it.
Usually my greatest fear in bringing up a topic has to do with worrying that my therapist will judge me about it. Not that that's ever happened before, but it seems to be the way I'm programmed. Do you have a sense about what your fears are around discussing the topic?