Jamie, I think you are going to have to put more emphasis on your wife and children. Likely this woman has no interest in you as she is married also. Get the non-available stamped into your brain for both of you. Usually crushes are one way streets. Have some extra romantic times with your wife and concentrate on that. Crushes usually consist of fancifull ideas that don't meet with reality. Even if you did have a something going with her, you likely seem like a guys with good ethics...you would not be able to stand yourself for cheating on your wife.

Sorry that you are in a position that you can't make distance physically, but for you and your wife's sake, ya gotta make it emotionally.

hugs, bj