I'll try to keep this short, but it is tearing me up .
Iv been married 24 years. My husband is a good man. 2 main problems. 1. when we were married 15 years, we discovered he had a STD. He swears he did not have an affair. I have researched and it is possible for the virus to lie dormant for many years. Regardless, he has a std-it grosses me out. I havn;t had sex for 7 years now. (2) for years I have been saying we need to get some common goals or things because one day our kids will be gone and if we don't find some things, were screwed. We use to have some major things in common. Those have changed over the years. Well, the kids are now gone.....and we don't have much. He watches tv, works, sleeps, repeats. he is very overweight. I am at the gym, active, doing new things, and in shape. I work also. The deal is I have talked with him about this numerous times, no change. I think he thinks if he just ignores things, they will go away. Anyway-I am thinking of leaving him but feel guilty. He is a good man. BUt for one thing, how am I ever going to have sex with him? It doesn't sound like much, epecially when I read about some peoples lives, but it hurts just the same. Thank you for taking the time for reading and any thoughts would be appreciated.