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Originally Posted by Callmebj
Maya, gosh, sorry that you are unhappy about your family. I think not driving and getting out would do me in. Sounds like you are so mellow and non-intrusive with your personality, your husband takes control of everything. He might even take it like that is the way you want things, since you don't speak up. That may make him feel like a manly man, but how about the way you feel? As for the son emulating his dad, mom get him straight on that...remind him you changed his diapers and you don't intend to be talked down to or be treated like someone with half a mind.
You know after all the years you've been married, he may have been like this all along; and just now you are seeing things in a new perspective. Habits have been
made, and now you may need to bring this to his attention about what you are resenting. You may have been the one to change, and you need him to change with you and have respect for you...his being a helpmate, not a dictator. Just throwing ideas out there Maya...hope things get worked out for you. Hugs, bj
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You are right Callmebj on all counts. That is what I mean about I think I have forged my own way with this, with my passive nature and my need to avoid any kind of upset. For the most part I am ok and accept things for what they are, but every once in a while I just get to feeling down and generally unimportant.
My husband is not the type one can sit down and talk to. He has limited patience with things that do not bother him personally. It is virtually impossible to have any such conversations about how I feel. Even if I did try to speak about it, I would feel very rushed and nothing would come out right and chances are he would not be really listening anyway, as he is always distracted. I know the routine and know it is not worth it.
I was just venting really. It is sort of a relief to put some frustrations out in public this way.
Thanks very much for taking the time to read and to respond. Have a good day/evening
