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Originally Posted by My kids are cool
My t told me that my father in law told our t that he could tell me how much my father in law adored me; how important I was to him. Still mute on the subject. T says that it's fine for me to be "self protective" but . . . Probably one of the most important events in my life and I'm silent.  |
Just because something is very important, doesn't mean that there should also be lots of words to describe it. It's ok that the words aren't there -- grief can be silent.
When my grandmother died it was extremely hard on me, yet whenever anyone asked if I wanted to talk about it, I really had nothing to say. My grief came out in other ways. The words didn't come until years later -- and I've found that the people who love you will still be willing to listen.
