lido78,
you are right, this is not just about sex. We have grown apart and are two different types of people. I can't change who he is, and I cant change who I am either. I mean the fundamental who you are. He is home, quietn not wanting much or needing much, just is. i am active, go intense and want more. And I guess that is really it. Ive done the counsiling, seperate and with. These last times he was suppose to step up. If it was just that, I would say, yah, Ill make the appt. but that is a symptom of the problems, he never steps up or says hey or anything and I am done waiting and prodding and asking. So I guess that's it. I appreciate your responces cause it helps me to think. Thank you for your time.