I'm developing a crush on this guy, and he's developing a crush on me. I'm 19, he's 25. We're not in love...yet. We haven't talked about "OUR" feelings, but we both want to take things slow. I just don't know how slow. He pulled me in and hugged me really tight after I came back from the bathroom, he kissed me on the forehead when we were snuggling on the couch watching movies, and then he went in to kiss me when I walked him to his car but I didn't kiss him back. I wanted to wait till Valentine's Day.

He doesn't know it yet, but on Friday I'm going to ask him to be my Valentine since none of us had ever had a Valentine before. I'm a little nervous about having a boyfriend because none of my relationships have lasted more than a month. He's also experienced with sex and I'm nervous because I don't want to rush into sex either, but I really want to have sex. I've made out with plenty of people without being in love, but I'm worried that if I kiss him it wouldn't be meaningful even though I want it to, and I don't want to end up leading him on.

How slow should I go with him? How many dates should I go on before I call him my boyfriend? I just don't want to hurt his feelings if it turns out I don't feel the same way.