Thanks Aquarius8 and Harley47, I really appreciate your thoughts here. I've been so grateful to have any other input - really been needing some objective viewpoints on this.
If I had evidence Moss was a serial cheater and was stringing me along while laughing at me with other guys, that would make me see red. I could TOTALLY get over the guy, like, overnight, if I believed that!
I think it's possible he isn't a total scumbag. He hesistated when we discussed our mutual attraction. He said he liked me and had thought of possible ways to continue - but he didn't feel right about it, and the fact that he had a conscience impressed me.
He's definitely ambivalent - he started contacting me again a few weeks after we decided to just not go there. So he's indecisive, unhappy in his marriage, wracked by guilt and troubling emotions and inappropriate attractions. Maybe he's made some bad choices before, I don't know about the rest of his life. And he skated close to disaster with me. Does it make him a demon? I'm not sure...
Anyway, it's bad news for me, no matter which scenario is accurate. And thanks for the reality check. Your words have helped me a lot today!
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