I'm glad to be of help Kitten. Voltaire once said "Every man is guilty of all the good he did not do." lol I'm just trying to minimize my guilt.

There is something I would like you to consider though. Have you ever thought he might've purposely fostered that image of himself? If he were to display himself as sure of his choice to have an extra marital affair, that'd paint him in an obviously bad light. So I would think that it'd be in his best interest for his goals to paint himself as hesitant, -say- he didn't want to do this and hurt his marriage...but I'll be honest with you, I think he's baiting your emotions and sympathies. That's my guess, at any rate, and was my perspective when I called him scum.

Whether or not I'm right (I would honestly prefer I wasn't), you are certainly right in your assessment of calling him bad news. I hope things get better for you, and I'll be certain to keep you in my prayers.