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Originally Posted by LovebirdsFlying
Can someone help me reconcile "Be yourself," with a conflicting piece of advice I've heard often? It seems I cannot find a way to both "Be yourself," and "Fake it 'til you make it," which to me sounds like, "Don't be yourself; pretend to be someone else, and then eventually you will become that other person, which is better than being yourself."
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This saying angered me for a long time too: "fake it (forever)" was what I heard. But it
can mean just taking a conscious decision to act as normal as you can,
experiment with that, see how other people begin to treat you if you do. You might learn that not everyone automatically sees you as defective. But people, in my experience, don't take the time or trouble to explain how to manage that "saying" so that it works out for
you. In fact, many of them probably don't understand it any better themselves!