yeah i would if i could but everytime i have anything to do with them its like bein g hit by a truck and being in emotional intensive care for......too long. hes been driving me nuts since he was 8 he got sle (systemic lupus erythamatosis) at 14 and has been blaming me for his father leaving him when he was a babe. and she has been driving me nuts since she hooked up with him and told me i was a bad bad mother to him. 16 years ago....the sle wasnt his fault but he got significant phsychological disturbance from that and mayhem was once again created. they both seem to thrive on chaos.