dumb OP was dumb: what im really asking is how can i stop being flippant at times?
like when people are really selfish or malignant assholes ?

i really go too far off the handle and have to edit my emails/facebook posts a few times before i send them

this is why i cant debate irl

but i always find what im supposed to say, thats more effective than being a total angry spaz

i just want to be able to say the right thing that isn't TOO emotional and insulting. so yeah, how do you stay calm and not be flippant? Be a little too caustic when you get angry

okay a little back story: right now my sister is dating a super religious extremist who has done a lot of stupid things; like take her halloween decorations off her porch, gotten her to think yoga is a satanic ritual etc

and i just dont want to discredit myself

ALSO!! question should i call my sis everyday to make sure shes okay? not being brainwashed? What would you do if you worried about your sister?

Shes such a nice girl i dont want him to turn her crazy