Harley - yeah, that really is possible, he could be playing up the hesitancy in order to look like a nice guy and keep me in a state of adoration. Ha.
He's been a selfish asshat, no question. He flirted with me to beat the band, extended the fantasy for a little while, and then took fright (apparently) and has kept me at arm's length ever since. My feelings are apparently not on his radar. (He's not super verbal though, so I'm not sure how much he knows or wonders or cares about my mental state.)
But if he was grooming me for something, he's sure as $hit lacking in the follow-through department! I mean wtf, he was in my town for a week and he never lifted a finger to contact me. I sent him one email during that time, which he didn't respond to. Pretty frickin' rude, but not exactly playerish.
He knows I'm besotted and would have made it easy for him. But no - he prefers the fantasy. He'll email me from another country, but doesn't want to meet up when we're in the same city. If he was a player, wouldn't he have tried to have sex with me when he had the chance?
(Someone suggested his wife might have come along this time. I think that's possible...)
(sigh) Sorry I can't let this drop, I'm really obsessed. Saw a new therapist last night, and I think he's going to help a lot. He made me promise not to contact this guy again. So looks like everyone in my world is telling me the same thing right now
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Originally Posted by Harley47
I'm glad to be of help Kitten. Voltaire once said "Every man is guilty of all the good he did not do." lol I'm just trying to minimize my guilt. 
There is something I would like you to consider though. Have you ever thought he might've purposely fostered that image of himself? If he were to display himself as sure of his choice to have an extra marital affair, that'd paint him in an obviously bad light. So I would think that it'd be in his best interest for his goals to paint himself as hesitant, -say- he didn't want to do this and hurt his marriage...but I'll be honest with you, I think he's baiting your emotions and sympathies. That's my guess, at any rate, and was my perspective when I called him scum. 
Whether or not I'm right (I would honestly prefer I wasn't), you are certainly right in your assessment of calling him bad news. I hope things get better for you, and I'll be certain to keep you in my prayers. |