Hi franki, I imagine this is confusing to you. I hope you will stay with your T and after awhile it may mean you understand more. Mother's can hurt their children by remarks; but that does not mean they don't love them. I think you have to objectify your Mom to some extent, and realize her human state that saying "I use to be proud of you," had to be hurtful to a degree to you. I don't really see her as attacking your mother, she's pointing out that some of the things that's been said to you has been absorbed into your acceptance of who you are. They may be negative self beliefs created in an off hand manner by your mom..

I have a younger sister who denies my mother's cruelty. Me and my brother who readily admit she was one stone-cold bi__h. Protecting yourself right now is more important than protecting mom and dad. Good luck with your therapy. Hugs, bj