this sounds like an opportunity for you to negotiate a little more emotional space for yourself, if that's what you want? I am terrible at this myself! I can't hang onto myself - at least not with people from my "old life". but you are good at identifying what you're feeling, and then describing it. I would tell T what you're telling us here. This is really what being in therapy is about - to work out these difficulties in communication. If you and T are not able to work this out to your satisfaction - if she keeps pulling this frowny face and "telling" you how to feel after you've discussed it with her? - then maybe find a more experienced T?