Oh, I don't agree with your therapist either unhappyguy. I simply dont approve of acting at all to be honest. Saying "act as if" is just another way of saying, continue to surpress something you simply never deserved to feel to begin with.

I just read your statement again LovebirdsFlying. I took your statement as saying that your realizing that without the upbringing of disfuncion your good qualities would have been able to shine. I thought you were realizing that you were never responsible for any of the disfunction at all.

I hope that is what you mean.
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