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Old Feb 11, 2012, 08:19 AM
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Originally Posted by franki_j View Post
Except my mom isn't cruel, she is, for the most part, a great mom. But I also love my T. But it does get somewhat confusing b/c hankster, like you said, she does ask a lot of times if I was hurt, or she will say "I bet that was hurtful" and start frowning and I can tell she disaproves. So then part of me feels like if I defend my mom I am going against T or something. Like one time my T got all irritated and disaproving at something my mom said and kept asking "Did she tell you why she said that?" over and over,and finally I just burst out with "I don't know why she said that." but T could tell I was irritated. Then the next session I felt that T was kind of colder towards me. I don't know if I am imagining it or not, but I felt that it was b/c I had gotten irritated with her and defensive about my mom. But I don't want T to feel like b/c I am defending my mom I don't appreciate and love my T. Does this make sense?
Reminds me of my childhood, after my parents divorce I kind of felt like I need to deserve their love by constantly putting the other parent down. I made jokes about my mother in front of my father and the other way round. Just to feel accepted and loved.