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Originally Posted by franki_j
And my mom was devastated and one of the things she said to me was "I used to be so proud of you." And my T looked at me and frowned and was like "She said that?" and then asked me if it hurt me, and I was like "Well what would you do if your daughter said that to you?" even though I know she doesn't have a daughter, but I guess I was just trying to make the point that it was a big blow to my mom.
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Your therapy is about you and how you feel; you turned the conversation by concentrating on how your mother felt, not how you felt to be seemingly told that your mother was not proud of you anymore, was only proud of you based on what you "do" and whether it is what she wants you to do or not.
You seem too dependent on your mom (and probably, she on you) and not enough on yourself. You have to become your own woman, your mother cannot do it for you. She is not your friend, she was supposed to nurture you and help you grow up to be a young woman with good self knowledge and self esteem but instead you are still looking to her for how to "be", a woman who is twice your age and does not need your defense, and she is still letting you instead of helping you become yourself and modelling good adult behavior.