I empathize. Having T challenge our opinions of our families can be disorienting and frustrating. Think about what your T is saying (and why) and how you feel about it. Your T isn't saying your view of your family is wrong--just opening the door for there to be more feelings about them. You are conflicted when T suggests your mom's comments might be hurtful; part of you likes it and part of you wants to defend your mom. Maybe part of you is glad T is seeing that your mom can hurt you (maybe you even feel like T is protecting you in a way by saying that); but part of you wants to see your mom as faultless. All children feel this way to some degree! It's okay to have mixed feelings.

I needed my T to say critical things about my parents' behavior before I could. T wasn't attacking them or saying they were bad--just saying that their words and actions had impacted me, and not always in a good way. I have a better understanding of my family now, and it's not always "I am bad and wrong and mom and dad are good and right." There's a lot of grey and that's okay.