Thank you (((everyone))) who responded with your caring and humorous responses. Sorry this is long - guess I need to vent.
Thanks to:

Roadie - I appreciate your fast response and yes I've had considerable stress over the years.

Callmebj - thanks for saying I was brave and confirming what I suspected.

Harley47 - nice to meet my pal from Q&A. You're young but give wise advice.

kinda chaotic - your username suits me lol. After the break in 15 yrs ago, I seriously considered getting a gun. I don't live in that house anymore BTW. I also respect people who want to own them. If I was by myself, I would but since I'm a sleep walker sometimes and worried I would do something.

gma 45 - no I didn't take it wrong and you could be right. Those boys aren't the kind of young men she would go for. One smokes weed/does terrible in school and tried to bother my daughter before. The other boy was brought in by police for receiving porno pics of a 13 yr old. The 3rd one is a follower. Well now they know this simple prank could scare the heck out of someone. I realize to them, it may have been a prank but to me it was a threat...due to my past. Thanks for your honesty.

Hankster - lol you're funny. Lets be neighbors.

Open Eyes - yes I also had a rotten day for those who don't know. My husbands customer is Aunt to my daughters friend. She told her niece and mom....my husband was referring to his girlfriend, so her niece told my daughter. Thank you for the post stress advice and I should soothe myself today.

Buttercup - sorry you also suffer this and I know this is a hard time for you/your family.

Stumpy - I know you had a great deal of past stress from your life experiences. Humor helps in tough circumstances - your post made me laugh.

Update: I'm very tired even though I had 8 hours of sleep. Here's a list of the most stressful events in my life.

1. at age 13 my BIL tried to assault me and luckily I got away.
2. 18 yrs - got cornered by BF's(now husbands) boss and got away.
3. been living with a domineering unpredictable man for 30 yrs.
4. 15 yrs ago - had a break in and was confronted by 2 men and luckily they ran away.
5. 6 yrs ago - was followed by an enraged lady for 10 miles in my car, during a road rage incident.
6. 6 yrs - brother dies from AIDS
7. 4 yrs other brother ended his own life.
8. 11/2 yrs ago - youngest was being chased by 2 big dogs and I had to scare them away with a weed wacker.
9. Oh yeah the biggy - 5 yrs ago husband says " I have another wife" because you can't fill my narcissistic never ending cup.

So I've had my share of stressful life events, so its not surprising I would be the occasional raw nerve ending. One good thing I can see in this list is, I'm a fighter in a good way and I persevere / don't give up even when I face devastating life problems. I'm going to prepare myself for another pound on the window so I won't be caught off guard next time.

Since the break in - loved ones know they can't do a 'surprise scare' on me because I get so startled. On a lighter note - I also see a pattern of using garden tools as self defense lol. Thanks for letting me share and vent - all of your responses helped in their special way. Thanks to all who had the patience to read this.