Thank you everyone for you responses. I have thought a lot about them. Yes, it is hard for me when my T criticizes my mother because I am extremely close with my mom (I mean, I live a couple states away but we do text and calll each other often. I look up to her a lot.) I just can't help feeling sometimes that T is a little too critical, and I also can't help feeling it is because she doesn't have kids of her own. Although, like I said, part of me appreciates it. And I guess I should be looking at how my parents impacted who I am today (which is what my T seems to be hinting at and has even said a couple times). But part of me doesn't want to is very resistant to it. What skeksi said is true, that it is very disorienting and frustrating to have T criticize my parents, because that is how I feel when we talk about them: disoriented. It is very hard admitting to myself that they did some things that were not OK. Well, it is easier admitting that my dad wasn't a good parent, because he very obviously wasn't, but I think that put more pressure on my mom, which is also why I feel so close to her, because my dad was pretty absent.