Wow..I know I just joined, but I think this is already my favorite thread. What I would say to her..

____, would you please STOP caring so much? When I tell you I can't come in for 3 weeks, I am trying to push you away-I don't want you to say "okay, but let's schedule a phone chat, next week?" I don't want you to know that I need that. I don't want you to keep offering to come to court with me..I don't want you to keep e-mailing or saying the exact thing I need to hear. I love it..I love how easily I can relate to you, and I love when you say how much you are like me, and when you say "you really picked a therapist just like you"..and show me who you really are. I love it and I hate it, because I don't want to need it. I told you need is the worst 4-letter word, why don't you believe me?