and what I am trying to say is, even T is criticising franki for not doing the right thing - for not being mad enough at her mom. where is T's unconditional positive regard for franki? it is not T's job to show franki the only, approved, right way to feel - that was mother's job, wasn't it? (a little sarcasm there, yes). I can't believe NOBODY agreed with me!!! sheesh!!! I had to practically SQUEEEEEZE disapproval of my mother out of my T - I thought they wanted you to be able to see it for yourself - no hinting by frowning!