Kind of like what I do with my therapy program. I make plans and look for ways to solve my problems. Sometimes those plans and ways don't work for me so I look at what it is and look to see why it isn't working for me and if there is a way for me to change the plans / activity so that it will work for example -

In a workbook I think it was called "managing stress through the arts" or something like that. Anyway the activity was called something like - containment box.

The activity called for the person to think about a problem they are having and then draw the type of containment box that would enable the person to lock up, bury whatever the problem was so that they could walk away from the problem and be able to continue functioning without experiencing the effects of the problem.

Well I could not draw worth beans while I was completely aware. So every time I sat down to do that activity I would have artist version of writers block.

Finally after a few trys I decided I was not going to keep trying to do something I could not do and something that just wasn't working for me.

I tool that activity and changed it so that it did work for me. I took a shoe box and and lid and covered it with brown construction paper (to symbolize a wood box and dirt because my idea of containment for a problem was to put the problem in a woodedn box and dig a hole and bury the problem that way the problem wold be away from me and decompose into nothingness)

Inside the shoe box I made a divider and put in one side a pencil, a couple markers and pens and post it sized pads of paper.

Now instead of drawing my prblems into a drawing of a containment box I open my construction paper covered shoe box, write one word per piece of paper and put the written on papers into the part of the box that does not have the writing utensils and paper. Then I put the cover on the box and I literally walk away from the problem by going for a walk or bike ride.

Sometimes the box gets emptiesd into the garbage, and I have also on occasion given my therapist the contents.

I could have stayed rigid to my plan and do the activity the way the author wanted it to be done and I would still be sitting there 3 years later still not able to do that activity.

Instead I was flexible. acknowledged I could not do it as it was and then I bend to locate a way that I could complete the activity and still benefit from what the original idea of the activity was.