(((Squiggle))) I have done what you did. And I didn't tell T about it either. It was early on in the relationship and I was actually researching to make sure he had a clean record. I even found a photo of him wearing the exact same cartoon t-shirt my S/O wears!!! OMG . I saved it and then deleted it a week later because that was just WAY too much for me to process and they do remind me of eachother in many ways.

Point is, it is natural to use what tools we have to try to connect with someone we need when we need them.