Thank you so much for your reply..it helps just to know someone else is reading. My son has Asperger's, and several other issues he is dealing with due to being in the system for 6 years..I guess you can say he's "damaged" but he still has so many awesome qualities..like constantly running up and hugging me just because he wants to :-) I don't know what I'm going to do if he doesn't come back home.