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Originally Posted by Squiggle328
She does tell me that I am controlling. By that she means, I control who gets close to me and who I allow myself to be safe with. I think we all do that, don't we? So, I am not sure why she says that. I do have an issue with where she sits when we are in a session. In the beginning, she sat in a chair that was higher than where I sat. I was always looking up at her. This made me feel so uncomfortable.
I finally told her and we changed things up. She said that given my history, she understood why that would bother me. I lived with a very controlling spouse and religion for 13 years. I did as I was told, so to speak. I don't want to ever be put in that kind of situation again. Maybe that is why I need to feel that I am 'equal' with those that I associate with?
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The chair difference would have not worked for me either-it would have been a complete power thing from my viewpoint. I have read some therapist literature from different schools that instructed ts to do it specifically for the authority thing. There were also schools of therapy that specifically said not to. I saw one once this year who had the chair thing going. I did not go back to her.