Squiggle, you are not a stalker! So many of us look up our Ts and I don't think that makes us stalkers. I understand the need to find out, to be equal to your T, to know what kind of house she lives in. You may remember I did all that. I have looked up all my Ts. Maybe I AM a stalker because I did drive by my Ts house. Then I told her because I felt so guilty.

I can't stand not knowing a lot more about my T than I do. I probably know more than some clients know about their Ts. I know what her H does, but that's because I googled him. I know how old her kids are because she told me. Then other things I looked up on Facebook which I don't do anymore.

I think the reasons for us doing these things are:

curiosity
wanting to be equal to our Ts or better in some ways
being uncomfortable with their knowing so much about us
wanting to be closer to them