looking back over this thread, I am surprised to find I answered twice in a row - that's not like me. this was my birthday weekend, which means I was fending off calls from the darkside - "you should be glad you're still ALIVE at age 60!" - that's a cheery greeting! JOKE! see how that works? can I get a frown and a "that must have hurt" amen. At least my T told me he was glad I'd been born, which he said was kind of the point of celebrating birthdays.

So franki - my T's for YEARS, literally DECADES, told me to stop the contact with my mother if I wanted to make progress in therapy, and that was in the years before cellphones made instant, constant contact possible. Maybe not just you, but I wonder what this means for the future? I mean, my mother was STARTING to call me all the time, but I couldn't take it, I started having anxiety attacks.