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Originally Posted by kitten16
And the implied coersion in the phrase, "You can't - "
DON'T TELL ME WHAT I CAN AND CAN'T DO for gawd's sake!
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I mean, if you're tending to a frightened wounded doe, for instance, your behavior is gentle and slow and reassuring. You don't make sudden moves and lunges, because you don't want to frighten this helpless damaged creature.
First do no harm, right? [sigh] DUDE, DON'T MAKE IT ANY WORSE!
So yes, I'm annoyed. I'll bring it up this week with Birk and see what he says. I don't have anything invested in the guy yet! He's got some 'splainin' to do 
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Both of these things struck me. My first therapist made it very, very clear that hugging was my choice. Until that very last appointment, he never tried to persuade me in any way to hug him. My second therapist waited for me to ask for a hug.
And especially with my second therapist, when I actually started talking about the details of the abuse, rather than just saying I was abused, it has been important for me to feel safe. My T sits REALLY quietly and sometimes it even seems like he's holding his breath. His voice gets quieter and his movements are dramatically slower when he finally moves.
I'll be really interested to hear your thoughts after your next appointment.