Hi shootingstars- What a good question :-) I think most people with low self-esteem do not even value themselves enough to ask this kind of question; I am glad you did. I can't claim to be "someone who got out of their low confidence zone and went back to their confidence self," because I definitely have spurts of each..however, what is helpful for me, is to identify the inner qualities that I want to have, or that I value in others--and strive to have those myself.

For instance, I often struggle with not "gossiping" at work..or just sharing info that doesn't need to be shared, even if it's not really something bad. One of my co-workers is really good at only sharing information that others need to know--and I really respect that in her. So, that is a quality that I strive for--and when I am able to do it, I am able to tell myself that I did well. The more I can tell myself I did "well" in certain things, and the more I become the person I want to be--the more I like myself.

So..can you come up with a list of qualities you would like to have? Or qualities that you appreciate when you see them in others? Maybe we can help you figure out how to apply them, then :-)