As some of you know my dad has been in the hospital for 2 weeks now. He fell due to a mini stroke from what we can tell. He is on the rehab floor now or Transitional Care Unit=TCU. I had a meeting earlier this morning with all his therapists, nutritonist, nurse, and social worker. What I am being told is that Dad will not be able to live by himself anymore . He will need 24 hr care. He will not accept going to a nursing home. In home care...is not feasible at all. That is $7000 a month or at least thats what it was 4 yrs ago when we had that for him for 4 months. Yeah.. thats right. OUCH! My husband isnt comfortable with having him out here anymore. My only option is for me to go live with him. I have not talked this over with my husband yet since I was at the meeting. But I feel backed up into a hole here. I will not abandon him. I have no idea how I am going to do this. I dont feel I am capable of doing this with my physical and mental disabilities. But who will if I dont? I am so scared for him and for myself and my marraige . My husband and I have been working so hard getting back to where we are now. And its such a good place. How are we supposed to keep things togethere being apart? I just feel so lost and confused . I've got till June 1st to prepare for this. They think he will be there till then. I just wish he would tell me it would be ok to go to a nursing home. It would make things so much easier . And I am sorry if that sounds selfish of me. I didnt mean it to. I just want what is best for all of us.