My longtime T of 20+ years used to give me a hug if I asked. If I didn't ask for a while, he would ask why and I said I didn't think I deserved one (one of my issues). Then he would offer them. He was very tall. I am very short, and yes the girls are big. When he hugged me he could rest his chin on my head and sometimes would kiss the top of my head. It was like I was a kid again.It was a good thing for me.

My new T doesn't touch. He came out and told me a story about "his " difficulty with being touched. I thought this was a unique way to talk about touch. He makes up for it though by his words,availability and caring, unlike any other I have had.