I've googled my t and found out things about his wife and children. Some things he never told me about but I'm not going to tell him. I even checked facebook and found his son on there. I felt like I was stalking him so I quit looking on facebook for his other children.

See I think it's just normal to want to know as much information on t as we can find. Like you said they know so much about us because we give them the power. I can't even make a decision without asking t about it. That's way too sad.