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Originally Posted by Perna
What about your father? It sounds like you have put all your eggs into one basket and it's not a basket you control. You need to make your own life, your mother is supposed to be your mother, not your best friend. My mother died when I was 3 so I had a great deal of trouble worrying (as you're doing) about what would happen when my father died. Fortunately I had a good therapist and husband and we straightened it all out. I recommend you not keep leaning on your mother in this way or you will make it extremely difficult for yourself when she dies.
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While I agree that it is very important to make your own life, I have to disagree that "your mother is supposed to be your mother, not your best friend". As a child and teen, I had the usual adversarial relationship with my mom, but as I grew into adulthood, she became my friend, so I don't see the two as being mutually exclusive.
Also, I can see where not leaning on your mother is important, but regardless of whether you lean on your mother or not, when you are very close to someone, it is extremely difficult when they die.