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Originally Posted by Kacey2
I still remember this analogy I gave to my t a long time ago. Here is my original post.
I just have been having a super difficult time with my own therapy. Let me try and tell you about what has happened. Well actually I will just tell you what happened the last time. I was really emotionally raw during my session. Unprepaired for what happened however I did feel connected to my t. THAT IS SUCH A STRUGGLE FOR ME but there it was, a connection.
Well it didn't last long..............................
I am going to try to explain this by rewriting the letter that I had written for my t. It goes like this.
T,
As I left my session last week I had to stop and use the restroom. I know that you used the restroom and then proceeded to get that other girl. When I went to my car I could see her in your window. The way she sat next to your desk and chatted eagerly with you. Her mouth moved as if she couldn't talk fast enough. She was animated and engaged. As I sat in my post therapy detatchment mode I watched this clip and felt incredibly disheartened. She had diluted my intimacy with you.
I wondered, how can it work this way? And then I finally got it. All that pain and raw emotion was just mine. Of course it didn't affect you at all. You could easily do your transition of "peeing and then right on to the next." It's like after every session you have you pee out any of them/me that was left in you and flush it away so you can do it all over again.
My feeling of connection literally lasted less then 5 minutes and it was over. Maybe that is why I have such a hard time letting it happen. When you think about the reality of this relationship it hurts. And it hurts bad. 
I think that may have been one thing that my t has never heard before!!  |
i'm sure your t hadn't heard it like that before; i don't like thinking of it like that either
although i guess there is a lot to it. Those feelings we feel are so real but really it's just us feeling them; not the T ... so makes it easier for them to move on even while for us we are stuck in all kinds of different states afterwards
I'm curious about the response also if there was one
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Originally Posted by beautiful.mess
My T has told me that a LOT of people don't stay long term for treatment. They come in for a session or two (or 3 or 4 or 5) and then are never seen nor heard from again. Maybe the reality of therapy hits them too hard and they realize they aren't ready or simply don't want to.
So with that, I would think there wouldn't be any time to get emotionally involved with a client that you don't know? It's when you continually see the same client over weeks and months and years that a relationship develops and you invest in their emotional and mental health. I would imagine that good self care is an absolute must (like Stormy said) in that case.
I really don't know though, to be honest.
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I wonder if the short term ones are harder in some ways since you have to quickly update yourself on everything going on with them and then they are gone again
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Originally Posted by Perna
I think we all do what they do, just aren't as aware of it; if you are working or studying you concentrate on your work or studies for a period and then concentrate on making lunch  talking to someone, you are in the conversation, etc. They don't turn off and turn on, it's not discreet periods of time, what we say/do reminds them of other stuff, just like when we're talking to someone and think, "Gee, I'll have to tell Perna about this, I didn't realize Tigergirl was thinking the same thing as she was talking about just yesterday. . ." |
good points
thanks Perna. I know I do it to some extent; but I'm not as good as separating or concentrating as my T seems to be ... seems to be