I spent most of my life hating what I saw. Now I can live with myself. I know I'm overweight and that no longer bothers me, I allow my hair to remain grey also. I know what chaged, it was that unspoken total acceptence I feel when I'm with T, that is the feeling I carry about myself. I don't think one has to have suffered sexual abuse to have felt critical about their image, I think society plays a big roll in it, I mean if I picked up the healthy non verbal messages from T, imagine what a child picks up through sch, commercials etc and if parents have the same negative messages in their minds this gets passed on. I can see myself just how much I was once a victim of our commercial society, now I am outside it and able to be critical of that rather than myself.