Or maybe this T will be the support you need. It sounds like you could use a good person in your life to validate your feelings.

Because you my friend, DO NOT have a bad personality, you DO NOT need to "just" exercise and lastly you DO NOT need to shape up. You need to heal, learn new behaviors and have support. Lots of support.

So, I hope this new T, that your sneaking off to see... is worth every penny and your husband can... suck it! lol.