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Default Feb 14, 2012 at 12:56 PM
 
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Originally Posted by Readytostop View Post
I’m sorry I didn’t respond to you sooner. I took the weekend to avoid phones, emails, etc. I’m not comfortable with therapy ending by email. I think these are important issues to discuss that we should discuss in person. Would you be willing to come to session this Thursday? I hope this message finds you well. Take care.

I wasn't expecting a response from him nor did I ask for one...so its odd to me that he apologized for not sending it sooner. I sent it on Friday morning. This is making it harder to just stop going. I still haven't decided what to do yet.
I don't see the "I'm not comfortable" comment in a negative light. He's using an "I" statement, which is the hallmark of good communication. He's not putting it on you, "you shouldn't terminate because you are not ready" or something like that. He's respecting your right to terminate. He's just telling you how he feels. Good for him. He's not asking you to give a s**t or feel sorry for him or make what he said your problem. Just being respectful and using good communication skills. You seem very sensitive about his use of the "I" statement, and that probably says something about your therapy relationship. I agree with nightsky's comment that maybe this is a marker of your not feeling that therapy has been just about you. Sounds like something bigger at work here. I think this point is worth working out with your T. Also, you mentioned you were picking up on guilty feelings in your T's message. I didn't detect that. I think you're on to something when you wrote your feeling there is harkening back to your childhood experiences. I don't know--it sounds like there is still much to do with this T that would be useful.

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