(((alice.clark)))

I agree with Perna, regarding journaling to relieve some of the anxiety. Writing in a journal could help a lot in getting yourself to see what you're really afraid of and then you can look at the situation more logically.

For example: let's say that you're afraid of being kissed. Your panicked mind then goes off in a tangent about not knowing how to kiss right, you feel stupid, you'll look stupid and he won't want to see you again, what if he wants more than a kiss, how do you handle that? On and on......

The right thing to do if that were the case, be honest with the guy, when he goes in for a kiss. Tell him it's your first. He'll naturally go more slowly and gently. You won't look dumb or laughable. And if he wants more than a kiss, then he's going to have to wait until both of you are ready and willing to go to the next level. Honestly, all decent guys will wait until the girl is ready before moving on.

Point is, get to the core problem. What is really scaring you? It's a simple little thing (and if we don't face that fear, it becomes amplified into dozens of other fears). You've got to break the fears down into statements that you can address. Like: afraid you'll turn him off. How? By laughing nervously. Sweaty palms. What should you do? Admit that you're nervous for some reason to "Joe". He'll probably laugh too and say that he's felt the same. Now you can relax a little bit, because you've let that anxiety out. Keep going down your list of anxieties & be sure to write what works down. That way you can refer to your list when these fears pop up again. Use that to reassure yourself that you'll make it through again.

Best wishes to you!