It sounds like she's seeking your approval for an alternative lifestyle. You don't give much detail, so - is she willingly participating in things you find distasteful, or is she being victimized?
If she's being victimized, she might need your help.
Strange that she knows about this forum but doesn't want to post here. That would indicate that she's feeling a bit lost or troubled by what she's going through.
If she's just bragging about outrageous stuff or trying to shock you with her lifestyle, kick her to the curb! There's nothing more off-putting than a person who talks non-stop about herself. And in this case it's worse, because she apparently thinks she's wowing you with outrageous adventures you could only dream of. Sounds like narcissistic preening and self-obsession. People like that are nauseating.
I think it's totally okay to tell her she's triggering you. That way, if you need to terminate the friendship, you can say "It's not you, it's me."
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Originally Posted by IceCreamKid
A friend of mine suggested I post this to the forum. Someone I know is in an extremely odd situation and she seems to be seeking reassurance that what she is doing isn't odd. But it is; and it makes me uncomfortable to feel as though I am being coerced into pretending that things are normal. When someone tells you bizarre stuff do you just nod and smile and act like everything is normal or do you express your real opinion that what the person is expressing is weird and unhealthy and unpleasant to listen to? For me it is a trigger because when I was growing up I was forced to act as though everything was normal when it wasn't. When it is a random stranger I can smile and nod and go on, but I must put up with this 2-3 days a week.  |