Screenager, you didn't cross a line. She said you could e-mail her, and you did -- it's really ok! And you didn't cross a line by mentioning her boyfriend. Crossing a line would be trying to contact her boyfriend or making it solely about her boyfriend and not you, or some such, but merely mentioning your jealousy is totally ok. I'm sure it feels REALLY uncomfortable -- I hate mentioning what I think about my T's having a wife -- but it's 100% ok therapy material.

The thing that makes e-mail great is that we can add a little liquid courage and then say our piece without interruption. The thing that makes e-mail awful is that you don't get that real-time reaction, and you might have to wait a while before you get a response depending on T's schedule or whatever.

I imagine she is thinking over what you said and trying to come up with a response that is both genuine and sensitive. I'm sure you've given her a lot to mull over and it's certainly better if she isn't too hasty.

Do you text with her? Can you send her a very brief text that says, "I'm scared my e-mail upset you. Can you just tell me that it's ok?" That might help you calm down in the time it takes for her to respond.

I bet she's not mad. I imagine she's really happy to know all of this stuff and is looking forward to finding a way to bring it all out in person when she's back.