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Originally Posted by rebnsof
Hello,
So, last therapy session my T said that most of the people with BPD had obsessive relationships with their therapists. I told him I knew that, but I didn't want that kind of relationship with him. It would bring me a lot of suffering.
He said he wants to be closer, and that this therapy (CBT) will only work if I feed my obsessive thoughts about him (which I am desperately trying to avoid).
This is scary. I feel like running away, because honestly I think it's too early for this, which I also told him. He told me that I'd be annoying as hell and that he would take all the s h i t I throw at him and help me, because it was the only way of solving my issues.
What do you guys think? It makes me soooo anxious  I don't want to have this. I created some distance between us, I admit it, but it's a defence mechanism. Because once I am obsessed with someone, I really AM.
Hugs everyone... |
Hugs to you, to begin with. Have you thought about posting this in the therapy area?
There are some really wise minds over there. I'm not going to predict what they would say, but to ME alone, this would really concern me if I heard it from my therapist. Obsession is nothing to trifle with! I am the same as you..once I get "onto" something, I tend to really dwell, and sometimes in ways that draw me away from healthy habits and...well, just generally not a good thing.
So....good luck to you. I think that therapy can "work" in a lot of ways, and not necessarily in ways that feel all that risky to you.
Trust your instincts on this one, is my two cents.
MCL