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Old Feb 14, 2012, 07:57 PM
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but does this mean that everything i think about my past is wrong .
I think that you got your past right. The cognitive distortions that are coming up are you interacting with your present like it is the past. How you developed in the past was in exact response to the dysfunctional environment. Now your environment isn't dysfunctional anymore and now you have to adjust to it and stop interacting like you are in the past dysfunctional environment.

What you are doing is very normal. How could you be acting any other way? We are very affected by our environment. Now you just need to let your healthy environment of today affect you.

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i dont understand why i am so scared and resistant to this.

why does it feel so invalidating ,and

why i am no not wanting to give up the way i look at things?

why do they seem so right and true and a very deep part of me?

and if it is all wrong then i must be .
This is very insightful granite. Do you think that how you learned to react to your environment in the past kept you safe so it is scary to change it now????

I so get that feeling of rejection?
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