Rebnsof,

What EXACTLY did he say? I have misquoted my T before and made him sound unprofessional when in fact he is nothing but. Encouraging you to obsess....not the best idea. Encouraging you not to suppress an obsession that is already there, but to talk about it...that is healthy, because the ultimate goal is to understand and resolve the obsession and that is part of the healing process. I would want to know that he is highly trained in transference though because it can be tricky. I find this unusual for a T doing CBT. But many T's incorporate transference into their practise because it is such a powerful method and really gets to the underlying emotional issues. CBT deals at the thinking level. A T who is willing to get to the emotional level as well may just be worth his weight in gold. Transference based therapies are probably the only ones that get to the emotional level. Let me know if you are unsure what transference is, otherwise this won't make much sense.