Hey Bethy, just barely found this. Can you ask his treatment team to refer him to the local home health agency for bathing and nursing care and anything else he can get? That way you know that you are not totally on your own. Also, it's not all or nothing. What if you do 4 nights weekly and hire someone for the other three? You could go through an agency or just hire someone and make sure you do the workman's comp and tax thing. Book keepers around here are great at helping with these things.

Please reach out and ask for help now from any local agencies you can. This is a really tough time for you. Take care.