My sister died in 08 leaving her husband, son, her sisters and the rest of the family desolated. Her husband died suddenly a year later, leaving a big debt and his son to deal with the mess. I helped my nephew and invited him to live with me and my husband. The first few months my nephew didn't want to do anything and I attributed it to his depression so I let it be. Later I insisted for him to do something productive instead of sleeping till 12 or 1 pm and going to bed at 3 or 4 am. He got into school for a trade that he is good at but he has just been expelled because of his bad grades. My husband tells me that he needs taugh love and I agree but I feel profound sadness to make him leave my house. I am also afraid that his life is going to be much worse and he will end developing a mental illness. Here at my house he has some restrictions but when he is alone he will smoke and drink even more, he will live in worse conditions and I wonder if he would ever keep a job. He is unmotivated, lazy, and very irresponsible. He is also intelligent, confident, verbal and sociable. I have had countless conversations with him, written him letters also but he continues with his unproductive life style. If anyone could give me their opinions I'll appreciate it.