You can do anything you want to do...but the trick is that you have to work on it...and it's a lot of hard work. Instead of saying to yourself that it's gonna be bad or saying in your head what he may be doing or whatever, try to tell yourself to stop thinking that way and rephrase what you're thinking into something more positive.

For example, instead of thinking he's shacking up with some hottie (one of my reoccurring thoughts on my man when he's not with me), try to say to yourself "I have no proof of this. He loves me and is faithful to me. He will not do that to me." Just state the facts and what you know to be true. Don't go on wild tangents of something that isn't in his character at all.

I'm like a mixture of your bf and you...I don't see grey areas at all and am a huge people pleaser (and also the middle child). I can certainly understand your anxiety and panic over his absence. I know I'd be freakin out if I couldn't see or talk to my bf for that long. It would also cause me to do the "what if's" over and over in my head.

This must be terribly awful for you to go through. Whether or not people feel this is a "petty" issue or not, you are suffering just as bad as anyone else is...that's what's important here.

Please try to hang in there.