honestly i hate reading about bad relationships... You have the choice plain and simple to be in one. If you dont like it leave. I grew up in a house were my parents fought constanly and i promised my self to never be in a realtionship like that.. Thats prob why im single with 2 kids. And im ok with that... I promised to give my kids a better life then i had.. So what I can say is whats holding you back? If hes like this then leave. Do not tell me because you have kids. That is not an exciuse.. my sister stayed with her verbally abusive husband for 10 years, my parents for 20, i seen first hand what it can do to kids.. 5 of us all together.. Stop complaining and do something! It maybe easy to stay but what tole? Sorry to be so harsh and blunt but I dont like reading things like this... Only you have the choice!