Squiggle - this makes SO much sense to me:

"You know, its not that I needed to know 'where' she lives, as much as it was 'how' she lives."

I'm curious about things like this with my T too - like who does the cooking at home? Who does the cleaning? Does T have a housekeeper? Does T do the laundry? Who does the homework help? What does a typical Friday evening at Ts house look like?

I mean, I know T is human, and I know the T we "see" in the office is a real person, but we get that hyperfocus and 100% attention, so it can't be "real world" real. Sometimes I'm glad curiosity killed the cat, so it won't kill me

Good luck today... hoping your appointment went well!